Content Note: Domestic violence is a serious issue that can bring up uneasy feelings. Please keep your responses respectful and focused on course ideas. Avoid sharing personal experiences that may be sensitive. You are encouraged to apply ideas from class readings, media examples, or societal observations.
Understanding the dynamics of unhealthy and healthy relationships can empower us to make informed choices about our personal lives. Reflecting on these dynamics can deepen your understanding of how power and control can manifest in various forms. Consider your own insights from class discussions, readings, and societal observations as you engage with the following activity.
In Chapter 7: Dating and Mate Selection, the section Rules of Dating and Mate Selectionincludes Rule #5: “Look for Warning Signs of Deeper Problems.” This rule highlights risky, dangerous, or unhealthy traits that may appear in potential partners. You’ve probably heard the saying “love is blind”—sometimes, people in love may overlook or excuse red flags that signal controlling or abusive behavior.
Before responding to the prompt, watch the short video below about red flags of abuse. Then respond to the questions below.
Video: 10 Red Flags of Abuse
Discussion Questions
1. Power and Control: Domestic violence in about obtaining power and control in a relationship, and can involve emotional, financial, or social tactics–not just physically harm. For this part of the discussion address the following:
- What are some examples of non-physical forms of control or manipulation that might appear in unhealthy relationships?
- Why do you think it's important to recognize these behaviors early?
2. Healthy Relationships: While it's important to recognize the warning signs of unhealthy or controlling behavior, it's equally valuable to understand what makes a relationship healthy. For this part of the discussion address the following:
- What qualities or behaviors do you think define a healthy relationship?
- Every relationship faces challenges. How can conflict be managed in a way that strengthens, rather than harm, a relationship?
- Next, read and respond to at least two of your classmates' posts, contributing to the conversation with thoughtful insights and examples
Video link: https://youtu.be/NMDJkWl7E2A
link for textbook: https://socialsci.libretexts.org/Courses/Citrus_College/Sociology_of_the_Family_(Hammond)/09%3A_Trouble_in_Relationships